PARENT’S SURVIVAL GUIDE TO DOCTOR’S VISITS

By : Mylah Santos-dela Cruz,MD 

 

As a practicing pediatrician and the mother three boys, all below 5 years old,  I realize how challenging a "simple" visit to the pediatrician can be. For starters, anything that involves a baby, packing a diaper bag, navigating through traffic, and the mere mention of a "shot" can by no-means be called "simple".  One consolation though, is that a  stress-free visit to your child's doctor is not at all impossible.  


Here are a few survival tips: 


Survival Tip Number 1: 

Note your doctor's appointment in your PDA, daily organizer, calendar, or any other hi-tech or low-tech gadget you might  have, and keep it! 


You wouldn't want to be pushed to a panic state   when you get a reminder call from your pediatrician's secretary that you were scheduled for an appointment in 2 hours. That simply wouldn't do! The baby hasn't been fed yet, your husband's with a client and wouldn't be able to drive you, and you haven't had the time to shampoo your hair today.  So, in order to avoid this from happening, know all your child's appointments way before the appointed day, and keep them! Appointments with the pediatrician are done for a reason- to update your child's vaccination, monitor her growth and development, or follow-up on a specific medical condition she might have. If for some reason you're not able to keep your appointment, make sure that you set another appointment within the week so as not to cause any significant delays in the delivery of health care to your child. 


If you're the mother of a newborn, allow yourself enough time to pack all your baby's things. For that 20 minute or so visit with your doctor, plus the 2 hours it would take you to get to the doctor's and back,  you will be requiring 2 extra changes of clothing ( for the baby AND  YOU- in case the baby spits on your blouse, or has an "accident"), 5 extra diapers, non-alcoholic baby wipes, your baby's favorite toys, 2 warm blankets to swaddle your baby in, your  digicam and videocam to record that "special moment" in your child's life when she gets her shot, your baby's record book, and your baby's car seat / carrier. This is assuming, (and hoping) of course, that you are breastfeeding your baby. If you're not, then make sure you have enough space in your luggage, I mean, baby bag, for 3 feeding bottles and a milk canister containing milk for 3 feedings.    

 

Survival Tip Number 2 :

Write down all your questions for the doctor.

 

Nothing feels worse than going home from a doctor's visit and realizing you forgot to ask your doctor if you can change your child's vitamins to a new brand that your officemate strongly recommends.  Your pediatrician would also appreciate it if you can discuss all your concerns while you're in her clinic, rather than  having you call or text her when she's attending to another patient already. The chances of you're getting the best possible response from your doctor is higher if you ask all your questions during your visit. 


Survival Tip Number 3 :

Know all details regarding your child's care / sickness before going to the clinic. If you don't, then have someone who does go with you to the doctor's. 

 

As you may have noticed by now, a visit to the pediatrician entails a lot of questions and prodding from your doctor. Your pediatrician will be asking about the tiniest details :  from how often your child feeds to how often she passes stool, from her sleeping pattern to her activities during her awake state. No detail is too small for your doctor not to investigate especially if your child is sick. Details like your child's temperature readings down to her appetite, the character of her cough, or even the places she has recently traveled to will be scrutinized. For your pediatrician to properly diagnose and treat your child, all these details need to be made available to her. If you are not in the position to supply these facts, then make sure that the person who knows your child's complete history is with you during your visit. 

 

Survival Tip Number 4 :

Prepare your child ( and yourself) for a shot. 

 

Nothing spells trouble more than telling your 4 year old that you're going to the mall when in fact, you're actually bringing him to the pediatrician for his annual flu shot. As parents, the earlier we learn to respect our child's feelings, the easier it would be for all concerned. A 4 year old child, sometimes even a 3 year old, can already be prepared emotionally for a shot. This can be done 2 -3 days before the scheduled appointment. This way, the child is given enough time to process the inevitability of the shot, and prepare himself for it. As parents, we can help him do this by explaining to him in simple terms why he needs the shot, and not lying about it not hurting at all. If you lie, then he will not believe you anymore and will not be very cooperative the next time you bring him for another shot. Also, assure him that you will be with him the whole time. 


Nobody ever said that taking care of  a baby is an easy job. But it has never stopped couples from experiencing the joy of parenthood. A good partnership between you and your child's pediatrician goes a long way in providing a stress and worry-free environment for you and your baby.

 

 

About Mylah Santos-dela Cruz,MD 
Dr. Mylah Santos- dela Cruz, mother to Nio, and twins Ali and Japi, has been practicing pediatrics for 10 years now. As a partner  in  Health Dynamics and a firm believer of parent education, she has been giving child care workshops to expectant and new parents for the past 7 years. She has developed a module for cardio-pulmonary resuscitation and childhood emergencies especially designed for parents. She has also contributed  articles to several parenting publications and websites. She is a contributor to the Help, doctor  column for Smart Parenting Magazine (Summit Media) from March 2003- April 2006.

 

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